Terrie Nguyen

Almost everyone says yes to this question.

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2 days ago | [YT] | 4

Terrie Nguyen

Chapters 19 & 20 — The Let Them Theory

These chapters were probably some of the most blunt relationship advice in the book.

Chapter 19: Stop chasing people who don’t want what you want.

If someone doesn’t want commitment, marriage, kids, or the same future you do, believe them. Stop dating their potential. Stop thinking enough love, patience, or effort will turn them into the person you need.

And from my Christian perspective, if I were dating today, I’d go even deeper. I wouldn’t just ask, Does this person want me? I’d ask: Do they love God? What are their values? What does the fruit of their life actually show? Are we headed in the same direction?

Because chemistry isn’t compatibility.

Then Chapter 20 basically says something even more uncomfortable:

At some point, stop your bitching or end it.

That line got me. 😂

Not every annoying thing about your spouse is a problem that needs fixing.

If you’ve communicated it, they know it bothers you, and they’re still the same person, eventually you have a decision to make:

Is this actually a deal breaker?

If it is, you have a much bigger decision to make.

If it isn’t, stop spending years resenting them for being who they’ve already shown you they are.

And THIS is where I think marriage gets real.

From my Christian perspective, marriage isn’t just about finding someone who makes you happy. It involves commitment, sacrifice, forgiveness, grace, and learning how to love another imperfect person while being imperfect yourself.

That doesn’t mean tolerating abuse or abandoning your values.

But it does mean asking myself:

Am I actually dealing with a serious problem… or am I making my marriage miserable because my husband isn’t exactly like me?

Whew. 😮‍💨

Before commitment: stop dating potential.
After commitment: stop demanding perfection.

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1 week ago | [YT] | 4

Terrie Nguyen

I just finished Chapters 17 and 18 of The Let Them Theory: “How to Provide Support the Right Way” and “Let Them Show You Who They Are.”

Chapter 17 really made me think about the difference between supporting someone and rescuing them.

I’m a helper. If somebody I love is struggling, my instinct is to figure out what I can do to make it better.

But sometimes constantly stepping in doesn’t actually help. Sometimes people need to experience the consequences of their own choices.

That doesn’t mean I stop loving them. I can pray for them, encourage them, show up for them, listen, and help create an environment where they can get better.

But I can’t do the changing for them.

Then Chapter 18 moves into dating and relationships, and the message is basically: let people show you who they are instead of chasing who you hope they’ll become.

And this is where I add a little nuance from my Christian perspective.

Because I absolutely believe people can change.

I’ve seen it in people around me, and I’ve seen it in my own marriage. My husband and I are not the same people we were when we got married.

God can change people. People can repent, heal, mature, and grow.

But there’s a difference between believing someone CAN change and building your relationship around the expectation that they WILL.

If I were dating as a Christian today, I’d pay attention to who that person is right now. Do they love God? What is the fruit of their life? What are their values? How do they treat people? What direction are they actually walking in?

Because I can believe in somebody’s potential without ignoring their present.

And I think that’s how these two chapters connect for me:

Love people. Support them. Pray for them. Believe they can change. But don’t ignore what they’re showing you right now, and don’t make yourself responsible for changing them.

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2 weeks ago | [YT] | 8

Terrie Nguyen

Chapters 15 & 16 — The Let Them Theory 🌱

These chapters took “Let Them” a step further for me.

Chapter 15 is basically this:

You have more influence when you stop trying to control people.

Which sounds backwards. 😂

When you love somebody and see something they could be doing differently, you want to tell them. Remind them. Push them.

Because obviously if I explain it ONE more time, they’ll finally get it. 😂

But the more pressure you put on someone, the more they can resist.

Instead, sometimes the best thing you can do is stop talking about the change and start modeling it.

Let them see you doing the thing. Let them see what it’s doing for your life. And then let THEM decide if they want it too.

That really made me think about my marriage.

My husband and I have changed A LOT over the years, but our biggest changes happened because we decided to change, not because one of us successfully forced the other.

Then Chapter 16 got me with this:

There’s a difference between supporting someone and rescuing them.

As a mom, my instinct is to help my kids.

Fix it. Make the hard thing easier. Protect them from hurting.

Obviously, they’re children and I’m responsible for them. But I’m also raising them to eventually become adults.

And I don’t want my love to accidentally teach them:

“Mom will always make the hard thing disappear.”

I want them to know:

“Mom is here. Mom loves me. Mom will help me. But I can do hard things too.”

I think that’s my biggest takeaway from these chapters.

Love doesn’t always look like fixing.

Most of the time is modeling the behavior you want to see in others.

Sometimes it’s letting someone struggle a little instead of immediately swooping in.

And sometimes it’s standing beside them while THEY do the hard thing.

There’s a huge difference between:

“I love you, so I’ll fix this for you.”

and

“I love you, and I believe you can do this.”

I’m learning that the second one might actually require more love.

Chapters 15 & 16 done. 🌱

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3 weeks ago | [YT] | 5

Terrie Nguyen

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3 weeks ago | [YT] | 7

Terrie Nguyen

Chapters 13 & 14 of The Let Them Theory 🌱

Okay… these two chapters made me think.

Chapter 13 was about adult friendships, and honestly, I get why friendships can get harder as you get older.

People get married. Have kids. Move. Get busy. Life changes.

And for me, I think friendship has just been a little harder because so much of my energy is going into building my home life.

My marriage.
My kids.
Our family.
Trying to make our home feel connected.

That doesn’t mean I don’t care about people outside of my house. I do.

I just know that in this season, A LOT of my energy is going toward the people I live with every single day.

And I actually liked the reminder that sometimes friendships changing doesn’t automatically mean somebody did something wrong.

Sometimes life just changes.

But Chapter 14??? That one got me more. 😂

Basically: you cannot make another adult change.

You can explain.
You can encourage.
You can remind them 500 times.
You can get irritated.
You can even think, If they would JUST do this one thing…

And they still might not do it.

Marriage alone will teach you this. 😂

My husband and I have been together a long time, and I can tell you right now—trying to force somebody to change will wear YOU out.

And the same thing goes for me.

There have been things people told me for YEARS that I needed to work on, and I didn’t really change until I was ready to change.

That part humbled me.

Because sometimes I can see so clearly what somebody else “needs” to do…

while I still have plenty of my own stuff to work on. 😭

So I think my biggest takeaway from these chapters is:

Let people be where they are.

Love them.

Encourage them when it makes sense.

But stop making their growth your personal project.

And then turn that energy back toward your own life.

Because THAT part you can actually do something about. 🌱

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4 weeks ago | [YT] | 5

Terrie Nguyen

Okay y’all… Mercy is in the Baby of the Year contest and I would LOVE your help getting this sweet boy some votes. 🥹💛

If you know Mercy, you know he is curious about EVERYTHING. He loves being outside, exploring nature, eating 😂, looking through books, and pointing at every little thing he sees.

If he won the $25,000, we would use it to help pay off medical bills from my pregnancy after an insurance issue left us without coverage, and put the rest toward more financial stability for our family.

Voting is free and every vote helps. If you have a second, please vote for Mercy and share this with someone who might vote too. 🫶

LET’S GO MERCY!! 😭❤️

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1 month ago | [YT] | 6

Terrie Nguyen

😂 Proverbs does NOT sugarcoat it.

A good reminder that the way we speak matters—especially with the people we live with and love the most. I definitely don’t want my husband thinking the wilderness sounds peaceful. 😭😂

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1 month ago | [YT] | 3

Terrie Nguyen

📖 Chapters 11 & 12 — The Let Them Theory

These chapters made me think about friendship in a way I honestly haven’t in a long time.

After I got married, I never really had super close friendships.

I’ve had people I care about, people I’ve talked to, people I’ve spent time with—but not many really deep friendships where I felt completely known.

And honestly, I don’t really feel a huge pull to change that right now.

What I did like about these chapters was the reminder that adult friendships change for so many reasons.

People move.
Kids get older.
Schedules change.
Priorities shift.
Someone enters a hard season.
Sometimes people just don’t have the same time or energy they used to.

One thing that stood out to me was the idea that friendship is affected by proximity, timing, and energy.

And that helped me realize something:

Distance doesn’t always mean rejection.

Someone not texting back right away doesn’t automatically mean they don’t care.

Not being invited somewhere doesn’t always mean something is wrong.

A friendship changing doesn’t always mean the friendship was fake.

Sometimes life just changed.

So for me, the takeaway from these chapters isn’t:

“I need to go make more friends.”

It’s more:

Stop creating a whole story in my head when someone is distant.

Let them be busy.
Let them be in a different season.
Let them not text back.

And let me not automatically make it mean something about me.

That part I can definitely use. 💚

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1 month ago | [YT] | 5

Terrie Nguyen

Some lessons come from getting it right. A lot come from getting it wrong.

If something I’ve learned can make your journey a little easier, I’m sharing it.

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