Abhishen

I was nine years old when CBT made me spiritual and for years I didn't even realize.

I will explain this to you..

Studies were boring to me as a child and when I did not complete my home work, I used to get some thrashing from my dad.

As a result I used to cry, perhaps you can relate to this experience but what happened immediately after that was rare.

I was crying and suddenly I realized that it's not hurting any more and I am still crying.

So what made me cry for that extended period while it stopped hurting.

May be it was the humiliation and the ego was also hurt.

But then I thought, if I want I can immediately stop crying and I can smile.

In that moment something extraordinary was happening which eventually changed the trajectory of my life.

I was able to observe my thoughts and I was not getting carried away by my emotions.

Not only that, but I was questioning my own emotional response and thinking if it was true.

By doing so I realized that happiness is a choice and I can choose to smile and be happy if it is not hurting me physically.

And later when I grew up and read about CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), I realized that unknowingly I was practicing CBT, which helped me avoid any negative thought pattern.

This became the foundation of my spiritual journey and I learned how to be a witness in difficult situations.

Today I am a mental health counselor and a spiritual teacher.

I help people understand their own mind with my psycospiritual approach.

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4 days ago | [YT] | 52

Abhishen

This practice can save you from negative thought patterns 👇

1 week ago | [YT] | 6

Abhishen

You can think about your own thinking. Very few species can.

In experiments, monkeys and a dolphin were given the option to skip a question when it got too hard, and they skipped when it was hard, much like a person who is not sure of the answer.

Many researchers see this as a functional parallel to human metacognition, though others argue simpler learning could explain part of it.

What looks different in us is the next step. We can turn that sense into words, such as "I am not sure" or "that thought is just my fear talking."

Once a thought is in words, we can examine it, argue with it, share it and teach it to someone else.

Scientists call this explicit metacognition, and current evidence suggests it is likely unique to humans.

It is not a perfect tool. How well we can explain our own minds is limited, and we are often wrong about why we do what we do.

But it is the reason observation changes things.

The moment you notice "I am angry," you are no longer only the anger.

Some part of you is standing one step back, watching it.

Most of us use this ability rarely, and usually only after something has gone wrong.

Today, try using it once on purpose.

Pause and ask yourself what you are thinking right now, and whether it is actually true.

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#metacognition #awareness #spirituality

1 week ago | [YT] | 25

Abhishen

Having money and having abundance are not the same thing.

Money gives you the means to buy comforts. In theory, comforts could make you happy.

But sometimes more comfort only brings more attachment, and more attachment brings more misery.

The ego looks for happiness in possessions and wealth.

The more it seeks, the more it clings, and the more it clings, the more it suffers.

In chasing false abundance, it actually becomes poorer.

Much of what is sold today as manifesting abundance is really the ego's wish for fame, influence and control.

I believe it often comes from a lack of love. What we never received as genuine care, we try to find in the comfort of money.

Many people are not manifesting abundance. They are manifesting ego.

True abundance is knowing you have enough. It is wanting peace today, here and now, and not at some point in the future.

If you have a healthy body, a clear mind, work you love and relationships that heal you, you may already have found it.

What does enough look like for you? Tell me in the comments. 🙏

1 week ago | [YT] | 45

Abhishen

Every fear you were given as a child was given with love.

A parent who warns you about taking risks or trusting people is trying to keep you safe.

But what gets passed down is not always wisdom. Sometimes it is the parent's own fear, handed over with so much love that the child never thinks to question it.

Children watch how we react long before they understand what we say.

They absorb our anxiety and our beliefs about what is possible, and they carry them into adulthood without ever knowing where they came from.

Not all tradition is fear. But some fears travel inside tradition and religion, and nobody stops to ask where they began.

A parent's one true responsibility is to not hand that down.

A child who grows up free of borrowed fear becomes a caring, compassionate and wise adult.

This is not about blame. Most of us are simply passing on what was passed to us.

Before you pass on a fear, ask whether it is really yours or one you were handed, and whether it protects your child or only calms you.

And if you are not a parent, you were still a child once.

Some of the fears you carry today were never yours, and you are allowed to put them down.

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#fear #awareness #spirituality

1 week ago | [YT] | 21

Abhishen

Watch this to know the harsh truth 👇

1 week ago | [YT] | 5

Abhishen

This will change the way you breathe 👇

1 week ago | [YT] | 11

Abhishen

If luxury could make a person content, the people who have the most of it would be the most at peace. Are they?

Think about what you have today that you once wished for. The phone, the job, the home, the freedom to order dinner at midnight. Somewhere along the way, each of those stopped feeling like an achievement and started feeling like the baseline.

That is how the mind works. It does not hold on to satisfaction. It records it, adjusts to it, and starts looking for the next thing.

Psychologists call this the hedonic treadmill. Whatever improves in your life, your happiness returns to roughly where it was, and the wanting moves up a level.

So the problem was never the amount. You can keep raising it and the mind will keep raising its demand to match.

Comfort changes what surrounds you. It does not change the one who is looking.

That is why you can sit in a perfectly arranged life and still feel a quiet restlessness you cannot explain. Nothing outside is missing. The wanting is a habit of the mind, and it will keep running until you start to watch it.

I am not telling you to give up what you have. Enjoy it fully. Just notice that contentment is not something a purchase delivers. It is something you notice when the mind stops asking for more, even for a moment.

Next time that restlessness shows up, do not reach for the next thing. Ask yourself what exactly you are wanting right now.

The answer will tell you more about your mind than any new thing could.

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#contentment #peace #spirituality #awareness

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 41

Abhishen

Rama and Ravana are not two people. They are two possibilities living inside the same mind.

We grew up hearing Dussehra as a story about good defeating evil. A hero on one side and a villain on the other, and a victory that happened a very long time ago.

But think about how many times you have met both of them in yourself today.

The moment you reacted when you wanted to stay calm. The moment you chose to understand someone instead of winning the argument. Same mind. A different possibility showing up.

Yogic thought calls the heavy, impulsive state tamas. The clear, steady, aware state is sattva. Dussehra is a reminder that the distance between the two has to be walked by you, and nobody can walk it on your behalf.

The good news is that you do not have to defeat anything in one night. Every time you pause before reacting, a little of Ravana loses its grip.

Think about this.

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